What Is the Hot Tub Lifestyle?

The Hot Tub Lifestyle isn’t just about soaking in warm, bubbling water—though that’s certainly part of it. It’s a way of moving through life with ease, connection, and intention. It’s a mindset. A rhythm. A way of saying, “I deserve to feel this good, right now.”

And while those moments often begin in the water—the quiet, the calm, the release—they don’t have to end there. The warmth can follow you into the rest of your life, shaping the way you breathe, move, and show up in the world. It’s about carrying that same unhurried peace wherever you go, long after you’ve stepped out of the hot tub.

This is my take on how to live the Hot Tub Lifestyle outside the hot tub—bringing that same sense of peace, balance, and joy into everything you do.

It's a State of Mind

The Hot Tub Lifestyle is about relaxing into life. It’s about finding calm even when things are chaotic. Imagine carrying the feeling of a long soak into everything you do—steady, unhurried, and a little blissed out.

• It’s not rushing through your to-do list.

• It’s not overbooking your calendar.

• It’s allowing space to breathe, laugh, and just be.

• It’s morning coffee without checking your phone.

• It’s taking the scenic route instead of the fastest one.

• It’s pausing long enough to watch the steam rise off your cup.

• It’s music playing softly while dinner cooks.

• It’s sitting in silence and realizing it’s not empty—it’s peaceful.

• It’s saying no without guilt.

• It’s saying yes to rest.

• It’s stepping outside at night just to look at the stars.

• It’s closing your eyes for five deep breaths before a meeting.

• It’s the freedom of knowing you don’t have to have it all figured out.

• It’s smiling for no reason other than you feel content right where you are.

And here’s the secret: the more you practice that mindset in the water, the easier it becomes to find it outside the water too. Suddenly, you’re less reactive, more grateful, and a whole lot more present.

It's About Connection

In a world obsessed with notifications and constant motion, when you're living the hot tub Hot Tub Lifestyle, you are allowing yourself to slow down and reconnect—with the people who matter most.

While some of the best conversations happen while you’re half-submerged, looking up at the stars with nowhere else to be, they can also happen every day—in all the simple, ordinary places that make up real life.

• It’s the quiet talks on the front porch as the sun sets.

• It’s laughing over coffee at the kitchen island.

• It’s long car rides with the windows down and music playing.

• It’s catching up during evening walks around the neighborhood.

• It’s cooking together and dancing a little while you wait for the timer to ding.

• It’s the text that turns into a phone call that lasts an hour.

• It’s the unplanned drop-in that somehow turns into a whole afternoon.

• It’s staying just a little longer because it feels too good to leave.

• It’s handwritten notes left on the counter just to say, “I love you.”

• It’s wrapping someone in a hug that lasts longer than expected.

• It's having game night with friends...or just you and your partner.

Connection doesn’t need to be scheduled or staged—it happens in the quiet in-between moments, when we’re fully present.

It's About Wellness

Living the Hot Tub Lifestyle means embracing wellness and balance as a way of life—and while some of it might be scheduled, like trips to the gym, much of it isn’t. It’s about the things you don’t plan for: how you choose to move through your day, slowing down, listening to your body, and finding calm in the midst of the busyness.

Let me share a quick story about a time I really put this idea into practice.

Back in 2021, when my husband and I moved into a new home, I decided to make the process feel less like chaos and more like calm. We started by taking several days off so we wouldn’t have to rush. Then I made a simple choice: to play spa music throughout the house the entire week of the move. It might sound like a small thing, but that one decision set the tone for the week—peaceful, cooperative, and surprisingly stress-free.

That same mindset—the one that kept our move calm and centered—is something I try to carry into everyday life. It’s not just about creating peace during big transitions, but finding it in the small, ordinary moments too.

• It’s stretching before you reach for your phone in the morning.

• It’s taking your coffee outside just to listen to the birds.

• It’s drinking more water than coffee.

• It’s jotting down a few thoughts before the day begins—not to plan, just to notice.

• It’s taking a walk instead of scrolling.

• It’s making room for stillness, laughter, and breath.

• It's stepping outside to site in the sun and soak up a little vitamin D.

• It’s eating lunch away from your desk—and actually tasting it.

• It’s sitting in the car for one extra minute of quiet before you walk inside.

• It’s watering and talking to your plants, realizing you’re caring for yourself, too.

• It’s keeping your tone soft, even when the day gets loud.

• It’s checking in with yourself as kindly as you’d check in with a friend.

• It’s leaving space in your day for nothing at all.

• It’s being gentle with yourself when the plan changes.

• It’s ending the day with gratitude instead of a to-do list.

• It’s drifting to sleep knowing peace is a choice you made, not a place you found.

The Essential Guide to the Hot Tub Lifestyle

Because the Hot Tub Lifestyle isn't just about soaking—it's about living each day with the same warmth and intention.

In my book, The Essential Guide to the Hot Tub Lifestyle, I explore what happens when we sink into that warmth—how soaking can restore, reconnect, and renew us. But this—living it beyond the bubbles—is where it truly becomes a lifestyle.